My mom's been very obvious about how much she
likes loves my boyfriend. On New Year's Eve, she openly said that she would be very glad if we got married and already considers him as her son-in-law. We thought it was just the alcohol but she's been letting my boyfriend call her "mom" since.
Its not one-sided. His mom loves me, too. She confides in me and she's said that she does this because she doesn't have a daughter of her own and considers me as her daughter. She's very eager for us to give her a grandchild, too. Very uncommon to hear a healthy, relatively young mother requesting a grandchild from her young son and his even younger girlfriend.
So for Mommy's Day, my boyfriend and I decided to celebrate a wee early. We took both our mothers out for dinner because of conflicts of schedule. Kill two birds with one stone right? It gave our mothers a chance to catch up since the last time they've been together was several months ago. (The last time they were together, they went clubbing. I know, so weird. At the same time, its great to know they get along so well.)
On our way home from dinner, she received a phone call. She answered it and all I heard her say was, "I'm coming home from dinner. I'm with my son-in-law and 'bala-eh' (tagalog for 'my son-in-law's parents')."
All I want to know is, how I became forgotten? I'm the one dating him. I'm the one who invited both of them while he was at work. I'm the one who suggested the place because my mom's never been. Okay, so he did pay. But it was my idea! She just mentions her "son-in-law" and all the nice things HE does for her! Is she more proud to say she has a "son-in-law" who remembers her than a daughter who does? What about me?! What about the daughter?!
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I don't mean this in a bitchy way, but I'm more concerned about the fact that your mom calls your boyfriend her son-in-law when you guys have been dating for what, a year or two, and... more importantly... you're not married! Aren't you like, 20 or 21? You're so young! You are not done growing, and there is plenty of possibility that you and your man could (no offense) grow apart and/or break up! So I'm more worried about your mom getting waaaay too attached to her "son-in-law" than about her forgetting to mention you in a phone call. I'm 19 and have been with my guy 2 and a half years... known him since we were kids... and although we each have great relationships with each others parents, I'd be so creeped out (not to mention embarassed) if my mom called him her son-in-law. But that's just my two cents!
@zwacker - yeah, actually I am just 21 and we've talked about marriage, but we see it in the far future, nothing definitive. My mom's NEVER been attached to any of my bf's before. It's probably because she's never been too fond of them, nor did she see them that often. She knows not to pressure me to making my relationship work because she knows I'm the one who would have to live with the guy, not her.
Honestly, I think my bf is the one who started it because for the first year we started dating, he was itching to start calling her mom (he has a tendency to call every mother "mom"). He subtly asked her if he can call her mom (I was speechless because I was so embarrassed) but my mom welcomed it. Henceforth, he was her son-in-law.
Do you have any brothers?
@JL789 - Yeah I do actually. I'm the youngest, he's the oldest. He hasn't met my bf yet, though. He lives in Virginia.